Find yourself before you find your partner

I love walks, they always conjure thoughts and there is a way that even surprises me. They come already organized, packaged as if there is someone in my head talking to me, or just me talking to myself. In this letter, I call it that, because I feel like calling it that today. In this short letter I would like to share something that I think is difficult to practice but when it becomes part of your being, like any task, it confirms that greater the difficulty, the greater the reward. 

I believe that you need to find yourself before you find your partner. I don’t want to say life partner, because you can love and be with someone without the expectation that their presence is going to be there the rest of your life. Actually on the side note, I think life partner as a set of terms is a promise to the future self and your partner that promise is aimed at rather than truth. 

Simply, your life is longer and more than that partner. Not encouraging detachment just pointing out something that needed to be said. 

You need to find yourself before you find your partner, and as a matter of fact I would go even further to say that you need to find yourself and love yourself before you find a partner. Love for yourself is more attractive to other people than one realizes. Sometimes no one notices it’s like a silent perfume that radiates from within. But it’s not only worth speaking or thinking about, you need to practice it. And the practice of self-love is as cryptic and fulfilling as the experience of the practice of meditation. And needless to say requires practice. 

I consider the following truth that is being revealed to myself as I grow older and wiser: You don’t become just by saying or thinking about it, you need to do the things that you think are necessary to find yourself, to love yourself, and to love yourself you need to do what you love. Hatred or ignorance about what you do everyday can create a split within you, that might lead to confusion and sadness. Going further apart from yourself is akin to isolating yourself from the ones that love you. A lot of times the two aforementioned go hand in hand. Well, look at that! 

The letter today wasn’t that short after all!

DO WHAT YOU LOVE.

Sketchman Boris